Being a part, a toddler is learning to handle strong
emotions. Sometimes kids act out and have tantrums when they don't get what
they won't or can't say how they feel.
You can help your toddler learn to deal with frustration and feel more independent. Toddlers do best when they know
what to expect. Stick to consistent schedules for meal and sleep times whenever
possible.
This keeps them from getting overly tired or hungry. Try
to prepare for situations that might be hard for your toddler to handle.
If there's a chance you'll be somewhere longer than
planned, bring what you need to keep your child happy. Praise good behavior or
give a small reward.
Avoid scheduling. Squeezing in too many activities
can easily lead to a meltdown.
Toddlers love having choices. When you can, offer the
the choice between two small things, such as choosing which shirt to wear or snack
to eat.
Remember, to give lots of positive attention immediately following
good behavior.
Praise your child by pointing out precisely what they're
doing well, like sharing toys or following your directions.
This can make kids more likely to keep up the excellent work. Set
limits in advance about what's OK and what's not OK.
Be clear about what happens when a rule is broken. Follow
through immediately with the consequence, like taking away a toy or losing a
privilege.
Spanking is not the right choice because it can increase anger
and teach kids that hitting is the way to solve problems.
When your toddler does act out, stay calm. Yelling or
getting angry only makes things worse.
Remind your child what will happen if the behavior
continues, and then follow through with the consequence.
Sometimes simply distracting toddlers is enough to get
them back on track. A brief time out is one way to help kids settle down.
The timeout should be in a quiet place nearby and last for
about one minute per year of age. So two-year-olds would sit for no more than
two minutes and three-year-Olds for three minutes.
When your child is calm, briefly talk about what to do
next time, and quickly move on. But when the behavior includes kicking,
screaming, hitting, and other forms of aggression, this is called a tantrum.
It takes patience, but as long as your child is in danger
of getting hurt or hurting someone else, calmly ignore the behavior until it
ends.
If needed, move your child to a safe spot to calm down. Sometimes
you may need to leave a store or public place while waiting for a tantrum to
pass.
It's normal for parents to become angry or overwhelmed at times.
Find a way to take a break so that you can remain in
control of your own emotions.
Though it's hard, don't give in to your toddler during a
tantrum just to make the behavior stop. This makes tantrums more likely in the
future.
Most kids have fewer tantrums by age three. But if you're
concerned, visit your doctor.
In the meantime, set limits, give lots of
positive attention, and continue to guide your little one toward good choices.
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